May 2, 2006
When is it Ok to Lie to Someone You Love?
What if you didn't like feeling pushed, even if you knew the person pushing you in a direction cares for you and was doing so to try to help you? What if they didn't realize that in spite of you respecting them greatly that pushing you just frustrates you and causes unnecessary friction?
In these cases is it best to just be straight up? Or when does it make sense to lie?
Many issues are not ones where there is only one truth, and many issues are irrational in nature. Not saying my path is correct or whatever, but what if there are multiple ways to a goal. How do you make a person respect your opinion on issues where many people are typically irrational? Take religion, as an example.
Posted at May 2, 2006 7:59 PMSometimes people just have to learn to agree to disagree. Perhaps that's an approach you could take.
Irrational is a pretty subjective word, but I guess we can't make anyone do anything (including respecting our opinion). I just lay it out there and let "the truth" prove itself over time. That's all I can do. Saying that I have the truth may be completely wrong, but saying that there is no absolute truth also means that I am saying that I have the truth. (indecision is in itself, a belief)
Application: I guess we just try to love the person even though they are pushing the idea on us. Love often requires great effort when I surely don't feel like offering it. My pastor used an example of his parents telling him something about his home decorating style. He butts heads with them on some issues, and when he was younger would get in an argument about "It's my house and I'll..." Now he says, "Hmm, I'll take that under consideration" and then does what he was going to do anyway. I suppose that is considerably more successful to our mental health over the long haul than friction-filled debates.
Hey, congrats on your most recent successes & very cool you're buying your Mom a house. That just insures that I won't be recommending your blog to my Mom anytime around mother's day ; )
